Supporting Children Facing Racial Discrimination.

A Guide for African Parents in the UK

Raising children in a foreign land has its rewards and challenges. For African parents raising children in the UK, one significant challenge can be helping their kids navigate racial discrimination. 

This is a sensitive and complex issue, but with the right tools and approach, we can empower our children to face such situations with confidence and resilience.

1. Build a Strong Sense of Identity

One of the best ways to prepare your child for the world is by teaching them to be proud of who they are. Share your culture, language, and traditions with them.

Encourage them to celebrate their African heritage through storytelling, music, art, and food. When children know and love their roots, they are less likely to be shaken by negative comments from others.

2. Create a Safe Space for Open Conversations

Children need to feel they can talk to you about anything, including their experiences with racism. Ask open-ended questions like, “How was your day at school?” or “Did anything happen today that made you feel uncomfortable?” Listen to their concerns without judgment or interruption. Reassure them that their feelings are valid and that you are there to support them.

3. Teach Them How to Respond

Equip your children with strategies to handle discrimination. Discuss common scenarios and teach them to stay calm and assertive. For example, they can respond to a hurtful comment by saying, “That’s not okay,” or “Please don’t say that.” Help them understand that it’s okay to seek help from a teacher, parent, or another trusted adult.

4. Educate Yourself and Your Children

Understanding the history and dynamics of racial discrimination in the UK is crucial. Read books, watch documentaries, and learn about influential Black figures who have overcome adversity. Share this knowledge with your children so they can draw strength and inspiration from these stories.

5. Advocate for Your Child

If your child experiences racism at school, take immediate action. Speak to their teachers or the school administration and ensure they address the issue seriously. Familiarise yourself with school policies on bullying and discrimination, and don’t hesitate to escalate matters if you feel your concerns are not being addressed.

6. Foster a Supportive Community

Surround your family with a supportive network. Join African cultural associations, attend community events, and build relationships with other families who share your experiences. A strong community provides a sense of belonging and support for both you and your children.

7. Promote Positive Role Models

Introduce your children to successful individuals who look like them. Whether it’s athletes, scientists, artists, or activists, seeing people who have overcome challenges and achieved greatness can inspire your children to believe in their potential. We have a collection of role models you can explore.

• Martin Luther King Jnr.

• Nelson Mandela

• Rosa Parks

• Lewis Hamilton

• Usain Bolts

• Simone Bliss

• Bob Marley

• Beyonce

• Patrick Mahomes

8. Encourage Emotional Resilience

Teach your children to focus on their strengths and achievements. Help them develop a positive self-image by affirming their worth and abilities. Activities like journaling, mindfulness, and creative arts can also help them process their emotions and build resilience.

9. Work Together as a Family

Discuss and agree on how to handle discrimination as a family. Whether it’s practising responses, sharing experiences, or simply checking in on each other, having a united front strengthens your child’s ability to cope.

10. Seek Professional Help When Needed

If your child’s mental health is affected by their experiences, don’t hesitate to seek professional support. Counsellors and therapists can provide valuable tools and techniques to help them heal and thrive. Racial discrimination is a reality that no parent wants their child to face, but with your support and guidance, your children can learn to rise above it. 

By fostering open communication, building a strong sense of identity, and equipping them with the tools to handle adversity, you empower your children to navigate these challenges with courage and resilience. 

Remember, your love, understanding, and advocacy play a crucial role in shaping a brighter and more inclusive future for them. Together, you can help your children thrive and shine, no matter the circumstances.